DBT Skills for Couples

DBT Skills for Couples provides couples with skills to more effectively cope with intense emotional patterns that commonly arise in intimate relationships. Each class begins with a mindfulness exercise, followed by each participant's report on practicing the previous week's skills with brief feedback/coaching by the group leader(s). After a short break, new skills are taught and practiced. This is a class format, not a therapy group. The focus is on becoming more skillful, rather than processing the events of the week. Participants tend to be diverse across a range of age, race, gender, therapy experience, and interpersonal styles/levels of struggle. All seek to learn, to become more skillful, and are willing to commit to actively apply the skills from each class, such as:

  • Understanding Emotion in Relationships
  • Mindfully Accepting Yourself & Your Partner
  • How to Stop Making Things Worse
  • Being More Alive Together
  • Reactivating Your Relationship
  • Accurate Expression via Emotion Regulation
  • What and Why to Validate
  • How to Validate your Partner
  • Recovering from Invalidation
  • Managing Problems/Negotiating Solutions
  • Transforming Conflict into Closeness

DBT Skills for Couples is based on the work of Alan Fruzzetti and Marsha Linehan. The recommended "text" for the class is The High Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, and Validation by Alan Fruzzetti


Facilitators: John Mader, LMFT and co-leader/participant-observer. Location: Carrboro. Meeting Time: Tuesday, 6:30-8:45PM. Cost: $120/couple; $60/individual; sliding scale available. Insurance Accepted: None. Contact: jmaderlmft@gmail.com; www.dbtfamilyskills.com